Start with your mouth!
Sunday, October 30th, 2005A young boy was about to commit suicide but before he did it, he called up his friend. This friend of his was so scared and he immediately called up his pastor. the pastor went to see the young boy.
"Why do u have the courage to die but have no courage to live?" asked the pastor
"I’m good for nothing, I am never good enough for my parents, i suck in my studies, i’m always sick, and i just…i just couldnt find any meaning to live anymore…I was told this is my fate n i have to accept it. death is just like putting off the candle light, let me die…" said the boy in a hopeless tone.
See how words can affect a person’s decision and mentality? If only he would know, or those who had decided to end their life knew that death is not merely "death", and they would need to face judgement, maybe they would have 2nd thoughts bout that. some never had the chance to know…
Often we do not really care bout what we say to ourselves and what we say to others especially. we give excuses like, "aw…that’s a lame joke.." or "come on..you’re not that petty.." etc.. The truth is, you will never know when will these words hurt people, when will your jokes actually affect a person. even the person closest to you.
We are affected by our parents’ words, our friends’ comments, our teachers’ corrections and even people who do not know us. we can make a difference if we start speaking words of blessing, yes, it begins with us. my mum used to call me stupid like a pig, "sweet potato" in hokkien…(of course she’d stopped giving me these names) some parents call their children, "gong kia" (silly son in hokkien), "sei chai pao" (bad son in cantonese), "duin meng chai" (short-life son in cantonese) and lots more…these had been so common until they never know how will these words probably hurt their children. and often, when they found out, it’s too late. It’s the same when we like to call our friends names, fat girl, short guy, pig head, monkey…read down to my post "BARGAIN". everything starts with a small cause. Don’t let yourself into it!
always bear in mind that you will never really know how someone will react to the words that comes out from your mouth. dont say u can just picture yourself in his position. no matter how close we are to someone or how well we know someone, you can never really tell what that person is thinking or how will he feel. Prevention is always better than cure!
You can change the world, change people around you, just by changing your speech today. hold on for 3 seconds before something is spoken. speak no words that are not encouraging or not buiding each other up. I’m learning this myself, its not easy, but it will never be done if we dont start.
